Friends Forever!

I haven’t been blogging much this month as I was on vacation and I’ve been busy getting together with friends.  I can’t think of a better use of my time!

I  make it a point to get together with friends on a regular basis.  (If you’ve been reading this blog you know that I aim for getting together with friends at least twice a month).  But that wasn’t always the case.  For a long time in my life, when I was busy with boyfriends, and then a husband and children, I let my relationships with my girlfriends slide. Oh we sent Christmas and birthday cards, and made the occasional phone call, but I was busy with my family and they were busy with theirs, and the years slipped by.

Then I had a bit of a personal crisis and it was my girlfriends who rallied to me and got me through it!  Yes, those same friends who I never quite had time for, were there for me when I needed them.  (Thank you Janet, Cindy, Brenda, Diane, Wendy and Barb).   After that I promised myself that I would put my relationship with my friends high on my list of priorities.  And so now, I get together with local friends on a regular basis and make sure that I send cards and letters to my friends who are further away.  I must admit that Facebook has helped me stay in touch.

Facebook has also been a great way to reconnect with old friends.  A few years ago I reconnected with my first friend from college, Nancy who I hadn’t seen since before we graduated in 1981.  Just this summer I have reconnected with a friend who I haven’t seen in over 13 years (Deb that’s you!), and I am looking forward to seeing my 2 college roommates (Cindy and Lynne) in a few weeks –It is hard to believe that it has been over 30 years since we’ve seen each other!

So to my girlfriends, old and new, I love you all, and I wouldn’t be where I am without you!

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5 Things I Know For Sure!

Welcome to Finish This Wednesday.  By now, you know that this is a weekly link up hosted by Nicole (Three 31), Lisa (The Coastal Chicster), Jen (The Arizona Russums), and Becky (The Java Mama).  Bloggers, join in and add your post to the link-up below. If you don’t have a blog, you can answer the prompts in a comment. finishthis-small

Prompt for WEEK #8 (Feb 26) is — Five Things I Know For Sure


1) Boyfriends/Husbands/Lovers come and go, but friends will last forever.

As I got busy with my life and family, I took my friendships for granted.  I didn’t make time for my girlfriends (who were also busy i-wjNS9zz-Mwith their lives).  But when I was going through a difficult time in my life (separation and eventual divorce), my girl friends were my lifeline.  I reached out to friends who I hadn’t seen in years and they rallied around me.

I have learned to cherish my friendships and to make sure I nurture them.  I call, send cards, stay in touch via Facebook, and try to get together with two or more friends each month.  I plan to be a good friend for my friends when they need me.


2) What goes around comes around.

Call this Karma or the Golden Rule, but I believe in treating people how I would want to be treated.  I believe that eventually, what you do and say will come back to reward and/or punish you.  Sometimes the punishment may even come first, and then the bad behavior follows.  But in the cycle of life, what goes around comes around.


3) A good night’s sleep is imperative for a healthy life.

I have always been a little fanatical about sleep.  In high school, as I went to bed, I would calculate how much sleep I was going to get and would get very anxious if I wouldn’t have 8 hours to sleep.  (I still do this, but I don’t get as anxious and I strive for 7-7 1/2 hours).  When my kids were little, bedtime was sacrosanct.  You could say I was the “bedtime Nazi”!  7:00 on the dot we’d start the routine, shower, story, BED.  I was always amazed by people who let their kids stay up until 10 or 11!

I firmly believe that getting a good night’s sleep is vital for our physical, mental and emotional health, and it troubles me that our culture seems to devalue sleep in favor of long hours at work or in front of the TV.


4) Work Hard, Play Hard.

This has always been one of my life motto’s and I believe that in order to achieve balance in our lives, we must balance work and play and we must work and play to our utmost ability!


5) And to quote Mick Jagger,

You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need!