Habits of Mentally Strong People

I saw this graphic and it really hit home.  Lately I have been looking for a new job.  It is a big project and can be very daunting at times, but I must say that I have totally embraced these 18 attitudes and I’m actually enjoying the search!

  • Move on –Let go of the past and focus on what is ahead. That’s what I did; I walked away without dwelling on the whys (the past) and hows (the future), and focused all my attention on the task at hand (the present).
  • Keep control – I do this by taking charge of the project: scanning the job postings, writing and rewriting my resume, and signing up for classes to strengthen my skills.
  • Embrace change—Luckily I look upon change as opportunity not a hardship.
  • Stay happy—Always a good idea to maintain a happy attitude; especially when trying to sell yourself to prospective employers!
  • Be kind — Again, always a good idea to be kind. Remember, “what goes around comes around”
  • Be willing to take calculated risks –All of life is a risk, and the process of looking for a job is no exception. You have to put yourself out there every day .
  • Invest energy in the present—(see #1)
  • Accept full responsibility for past behavior—I’ve learned that no matter what the situation, my attitudes and actions influenced the outcome.
  • Celebrate other people’s success—this goes with #5, being kind. I especially like sending cards or e-mails to people congratulating them on their accomplishments.
  • Be willing to fail—Failure is part of embracing change (#3) and being willing to take calculated risks (#6).
  • Enjoy time along – I think this comes with age and maturity. There was a time when I hated being alone, and busied myself just to avoid solitude.  But now I relish my alone time.  Time to read, to write, to think, and yes, sometimes to nap!
  • Work and succeed on ones own merits – Honestly, who else’s merit would get us to where we want to be?
  • Have staying power/Don’t give up – I am committed to keeping up the task until I achieve a positive outcome.
  • Evaluate and be true to core beliefs—as I go through this process, I am constantly evaluating who I am, what I believe, and how I can tailor my job search to my beliefs. For example, I have seen several job listings for a company that is in an industry I do not support.  While the listings look good, I pass them by.
  • Expend mental energy wisely—I’ve cleared the decks. Everything I work on is related to my job search.  I don’t let distractions pull me away from my goal.
  • Think productively—funny, the more positively and productively I think the more positive and productive I am becoming!
  • Tolerate discomfort—This process is not a comfortable one; sending resumes into the black hole of cyber space, hearing nothing or getting the standard response…”thank you for your interest but at this time….”  The trick is to be able to brush off the negative and keep moving forward (#1)

Comments

  1. For me, it is to stay focuses and to stay calm. As long as emotions do not get involved, I can make logical decisions. It seem when I am logical, I do not make as many mistakes in my decision making.

  2. Taking risks and tolerating discomfort are difficult but necessary to progress and succeed. I need to do more of both this year. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. I wouldn’t call myself a mentally strong person – I’m too cautious for my own good a lot of the time and I can be really procrastinative about some things. But let me at least share with you a favorite quote that is relevant to this post: “The world of achievement has always belonged to the optimist.” (J. Harold Wilkins)
    Be optimistic, y’all!

  4. Sushmita Thakare Jain says:

    Lovely post dear, it’s difficult to stay strong sometimes many lose to some or the other situation. Posts like yours are needed to help many on their track.
    Thanks for sharing!

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